5 Areas to Focus on in 2020

Happy New Year to all!

Another year and another decade are now behind us. This is around the time where, between nursing hangovers, we reminisce about the past. So much has happened! Ups, downs, and everything in between.

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Infidelity

There are few greater triggers in life than infidelity. Cheating in relationships brings out the deepest fears and insecurities, while also creating its own kind of trauma.

Because of this, and the general monogamistic approach to relationships that humanity has had for most of recorded history, we view infidelity as a very black and white subject. It is wrong. The cheater is scum. The person cheated on is a poor victim.

However, as with most things in life, the older we get the more we realize there is a lot more grey area than stark black and white. Infidelity is one of the subjects that lives in that in-between.

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27 Things I’ve Learned By My 27th Birthday

Today is my 27th birthday. Along with the well wishes comes a lot of introspection. I find myself asking questions such as “what do you have to show for your 27 years?”, “where are you now?”, and “what will yo do before you hit 30?” with more seriousness and even melancholy than usual.

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You Are Enough

You are enough, plain and simple.

You will go through times where this feels like a lie, where it feels like you are lacking in certain areas of your life. You might feel like you aren’t worthy or deserving enough for that house or apartment you want to be living in, for that promotion, for that really attractive guy or girl to want you, to be loved and respected by friends and family. These are the real lies.

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Run Your Own Race

Constant comparison to others not only impairs your results, but also negatively impacts your wellness. This can be cured by running your own race.

The world has become a very competitive place. In Western society, our culture is dominated by professional sports, capitalism, and an “us vs them” political system. This ideology becomes imprinted in our psyches from a young age. It is coupled with the natural drive to compete inherent in humans and leads to a life of striving and comparison.

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Wellbeing Through Forgiveness

I have struggled with being able to let go. I would cringe when suddenly remembering something someone else, or even I, did or said that led to awkwardness, embarrassment, or hurt. I would lay awake for hours at night with the memories of these “incidents” spiraling out of control. I would use them as concrete evidence supporting my theories of unworthiness and social awkwardness.

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Growing Up With a Foreign Name

It can be difficult, especially during childhood, to have a name that people find foreign and difficult to pronounce. This will change as time goes on and you grow to appreciate the history and culture represented by your name.

The first day of school is always one of excitement and trepidation. Whether it is in elementary school or college, you are in a state of anticipation over seeing who your classmates will, discovering what your teacher or professor will be like, and attempting to put your best foot forward and make a great first impression.

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